two sides

ive always been split between multiple groups, cliqs, etc...i know people in all walks of life i think but the big opposite that at my age of 23 appears to happen is the single vs. married and the differences seem to be slapping me in the face lately...in the past month, 3 people minimum i know got married...at least, of which i missed all the weddings...3 other people got engaged...at least, and who knows how many found a new toy to play with...and of course this being the digital information age or whatever they call it, i found out about all of the above on facebook or myspace or something like that...and as all this happens, i seem to find myself amongst people who are way off the oregon trail of marriage, some oxen drowned in the water, others lost hunting buffalo, many ran out of supplies, no one with all four wagon wheels...

so there is a point here somewhere and its two fold...congratulations to those who've found the love of their life, etc...if it makes you happy, great...happy is good...but as i say this i almost feel like im lying because i honestly feel that while some people were born and raised and also accept the idea of marriage in their early twenties and thats the life they want to live and will live it successfully and being friends ill accept it too and support and try to nurture the relationship til death do i part...i also wish people could have just a little more time to not grow up...to explore, not to test drive every car in the lot, thats not my direction...but to experience more of life before beginning such a long and difficult journey of raising a family, two and a half kids, dog named rover and cat named brutus, petey the parakeet and oscar the fish ...

now not all young marriages are obviously like this, thats just the norm or average, median or mean...and its not bad either, just in my book its not always ideal...i think my major hiccup with the whole thing is more about society's acceptance and expectance of the idea...but what the hell do i know...i could be married in a month, a year, ten or never...but i do know if it ever happens i will have fully lived the life i wanted to, unattached and i will fully live the life i want to, attached...

so again contrats to all, to those ready for the trip down marriage lane, to those who see the path and take the fork knowing eventually life will circle, and to those like paul who see a different way to spent 30, 50, 80 years of life...